Mona Lisas and Mad Hatters

I'm Kristin. I'm 23. I'm neurotic, awesome, insecure, ballsy, opinionated and loving. I have the most amazing life.

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Posts tagged "stop rape"

Let’s look a little more closely at that correlation between rape and alcohol. That’s not a correlation between female drinking and rape. It’s a correlation between all drinking and rape. In fact, studies have shown that it’s more likely that a male rapist has been drinking than that his female victim has. So if we want to raise awareness about the links between drinking and rape, we should start by getting the word out to men that alcohol is likely to impair their ability to respond appropriately if a sexual partner says “no.” When was the last time you read that article in any kind of publication?

This is such an important article. We seriously need to look at the way that we talk about sexual violence in mainstream culture. 98% of rapists are male and that is the demographic we should be targeting when we talk about creating a world without rape. Doesn’t it make more sense to tell men not rape, rather than to tell potential victims (male/female/transgender) to protect themselves from being raped? No one says it will be easy, but I think it is worth a shot.

In addition, we need to stop victim blaming. No one ever asks to be assaulted and no one ever deserves it. I don’t care what they are wearing, how much they have had to drink or where they were at what time of the day. 

Our culture spends a lot of time reinforcing the message that women are always vulnerable to sexual assault and should be on constant guard to prevent themselves from becoming the victim of sexual violence. Many of these safety tips are certainly good safety tips to practice for everyone (not just women), but we should really be teaching men not to rape, rather than expecting women to take extreme precautions to not be raped. This mentality leads survivors of sexual assault to ask questions like, “What could I have done to prevent this?” or “What did I do to cause this to happen to me?” and fuels the victim blaming mentality that often accompanies sexual violence. So here are some better tips that I found that will help you to prevent sexual assault in your community: 

1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.

2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!

3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!

4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.

5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!

6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.

7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.

8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.

9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!

10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident”you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.