Mona Lisas and Mad Hatters

I'm Kristin. I'm 23. I'm neurotic, awesome, insecure, ballsy, opinionated and loving. I have the most amazing life.

Love (in no particular order): Josh (aka sagansapien), my fur children, veggies (especially asparagus), pumpkins, sunflowers, when books are perfectly broken in, documentaries, sociology, feminism, carl sagan, weeds, chickens, my amazing, world-changing beautiful friends, futurama, human rights of all varieties, red wine, old trees and hammocks

Dislike: intolerance, injustice, hatred and condiments, particularly mayo
Posts tagged "feminist"

This month is Domestic Violence Month and it is absolutely heartbreaking to hear that Topeka has stopped prosecuting perpetrators of Intimate Partner Violence due to a “lack of funding”. Leaving an abusive relationship is an extremely dangerous and difficult thing and now with no legal repercussions for perpetrators who knows what horrible things will happen to victims in Topeka.

Even if the funding is “miraculously” found to resume prosecution of these cases, the message has been sent that in Topeka, KS, the victims of IPV are just not important. 

So many books that I have and so many books that I want are on this list. Check it out, my socially conscious, book loving followers!

Let’s look a little more closely at that correlation between rape and alcohol. That’s not a correlation between female drinking and rape. It’s a correlation between all drinking and rape. In fact, studies have shown that it’s more likely that a male rapist has been drinking than that his female victim has. So if we want to raise awareness about the links between drinking and rape, we should start by getting the word out to men that alcohol is likely to impair their ability to respond appropriately if a sexual partner says “no.” When was the last time you read that article in any kind of publication?

This is such an important article. We seriously need to look at the way that we talk about sexual violence in mainstream culture. 98% of rapists are male and that is the demographic we should be targeting when we talk about creating a world without rape. Doesn’t it make more sense to tell men not rape, rather than to tell potential victims (male/female/transgender) to protect themselves from being raped? No one says it will be easy, but I think it is worth a shot.

In addition, we need to stop victim blaming. No one ever asks to be assaulted and no one ever deserves it. I don’t care what they are wearing, how much they have had to drink or where they were at what time of the day. 

Our culture spends a lot of time reinforcing the message that women are always vulnerable to sexual assault and should be on constant guard to prevent themselves from becoming the victim of sexual violence. Many of these safety tips are certainly good safety tips to practice for everyone (not just women), but we should really be teaching men not to rape, rather than expecting women to take extreme precautions to not be raped. This mentality leads survivors of sexual assault to ask questions like, “What could I have done to prevent this?” or “What did I do to cause this to happen to me?” and fuels the victim blaming mentality that often accompanies sexual violence. So here are some better tips that I found that will help you to prevent sexual assault in your community: 

1. Don’t put drugs in people’s drinks in order to control their behavior.

2. When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone!

3. If you pull over to help someone with car problems, remember not to assault them!

4. NEVER open an unlocked door or window uninvited.

5. If you are in an elevator and someone else gets in, DON’T ASSAULT THEM!

6. Remember, people go to laundry to do their laundry, do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.

7. USE THE BUDDY SYSTEM! If you are not able to stop yourself from assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you are in public.

8. Always be honest with people! Don’t pretend to be a caring friend in order to gain the trust of someone you want to assault. Consider telling them you plan to assault them. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the other person may take that as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.

9. Don’t forget: you can’t have sex with someone unless they are awake!

10. Carry a whistle! If you are worried you might assault someone “on accident”you can hand it to the person you are with, so they can blow it if you do.

I intend to scream, shout, race the engine, call when I feel like it, throw tantrums in Bloomingdale’s if I feel like it and confess intimate details about my life to complete strangers. I intend to do what I want to do and be whom I want to be and answer only to myself: that is, quite simply, the bitch philosophy.
Elizabeth Wurtzel, Bitch: In Praise of Difficult Women
I posit that we’re free to seize a word that was kidnapped and co-opted in a pain-filled, distant, past, with a ransom that cost our grandmothers’ freedom, children, traditions, pride, and land.” Third-wave feminists believe it is better to change the connotation of a sexist word than to censor it from speech.

Inga Muscio, Cunt

Katie, we often talk about reclaiming derogatory words as a component of the third wave feminist movement. I am still not decided as to how I feel about this notion, but tonight in my training for RCASA, this was presented on a slide about the issue. 

The fact that feminism is no longer limited to arenas where we expect to see it—NOW, Ms., women’s studies, and red-suited Congresswomen—perhaps means that young women today have really reaped what feminism has sown. Raised after Title IX and William Wants a Doll [sic], young women emerged from college or high school or two years of marriage or their first job and began challenging some of the received wisdom of the past ten or twenty years of feminism. We’re not doing feminism the same way that the seventies feminists did it; being liberated doesn’t mean copying what came before but finding one’s own way— a way that is genuine to one’s own generation.
Jennifer Baumgardner and Amy Richards, Manifesta
You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe it to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”.

There is a country where the leading cause of death of pregnant women is murder by a partner. In this same country, more than a million women were raped in 2008 and women are much more likely to live in poverty than men. Local laws don’t protect their right to bodily freedom and integrity; some rape laws even state that once a woman initially consents to sex, she doesn’t have the right to change her mind.

You may have caught on by now — yes, I’m talking about the United States.

The global statistics on the abuse of girls are numbing. It appears that more girls have been killed in the last fifty years, precisely because they were girls, than men were killed in all the battles of the twentieth century. More girls are killer in this routine “gendercide” in any one decade than people were slaughtered in all the genocides of the twentieth century.
Nicolas D. Kristof and Sheryl Shrunk, “Half the Sky”
Women hold up half the sky.
Chinese Proverb